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About PrincessRouge

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Well... I'm a 23 year old college student. I live in Michigan, which is kinda undergoing it's own little great depression. I'm already $15,000 in debt for a multitude of reasons (student loans, credit card debt, social security). I didn't spend my money recklessly, I just got stuck in a lot of bad situations. All my credit card debt is from trying to pay bills from back when I shared a apartment with my brother who didn't want to pay his share. I was sick for a while, I have aplastic anemia and I was on disability for 4 years but social security decided that I wasn't sick for the last year (not true) and now they want me to pay back their money. Not only that but they cut off my health insurance so I have no idea what's going on with my body. I'm supposed to go to the doctor every 3 months and stay on medication because my platelet level still isn't normal but I can't pay for any of that.

I don't have any immediate family, my mom left when I was a baby and my dad, well you know how it is with them.... I don't even know him at all. I still have my family on my mother's side but they are less than concerned with my well being. Don't get me wrong they're involved in my life but recently I've come to the conclusion that they do just enough so that they can sleep at night (which isn't very much at all, which says a lot about how compassionate they are in the first place). It used to really bother me but lately I realized I have to get over it and move on if I'm going to survive in the world. I can't keep playing their games and trying to test them on how much they care. It has caused set backs in my life because instead of making decisions based off of what I know I can do on my own, I made them based off their lies and empty promises and I ended up getting stuck with the bill so to speak.

Right now I'm trying to move, I can't even begin to get into the reasons why I have to get away from my family, I will say it's deeper than just not getting along. They are literally hindering me from moving on in life. But I mainly need to move so that I'm closer to school and can take the bus everyday. I don't have a car and I can't drive because no one wants to teach me. I will learn when I get the money to take classes and get a car. But I don't know how that's gonna happen.

I also need to move because I can find a job easier in the city. My family doesn't want to drive me to work either and there are not any buses near me. I managed to find a job down the street but they barely give me 10 hours a week. Not only that but sometimes it seems like I have trouble getting my family to drive me down the street! So I need to be somewhere where I can take care of myself. Luckily I have a boyfriend who supports me the best way he can but he can only do so much. We're both young and not even out of school yet making minimum wage. He can't take care of me and I don't expect him to.

Sigh... I'm just trying to catch a break out here...

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goodnewsforyou

It is good to know you are in College. I hope you and your boyfriend are in professional fields - it makes it easier during this recession to find a job.

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PrincessRouge
 in response to whoknew...   Thank you. And yes, I suppose you're right. I only know one person who is considered "normal" by most standards, and she gets teased about it from time to time. So I guess I am the norm. lol
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Anonymous

Good morning Princess and welcome to Aidpage!

We are quite possibly the most normal, (dysfunctional) family anywhere. I think evryone has this idea of what normal should be like- I know I do - and somehow we just don't fit the mold. But what's funny to me is the more people I talk to, the more I find there are more "dysfunctional" people than there are "normal" people! That tells me that WE are the normal ones and THEY are the abnormal ones.

Let's face it if we start comparing our lives to tv and the media, sure we are going to fall short- how can you live up to a fantasy??? It's just not possible. If it were possible, none of us would be here and the good guys would always win... 

 Anyway, I wanted to welcome you here to our family and I look forward to hearing more about aplastic anemia. I am sure there are a lot of people who could benefit from your information. 

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